New Year’s Resolutions, Boquete Style!

Blog by Terry Richmeier


If you are anything like most people in the world, you are planning to lose weight. Or perhaps you are going to be nicer to that idiot so and so that you know at the office. Perhaps you are going to try to relax more. Work out more. Read more. Eat at home more. Spend more time with the children or the dog.

Whatever you decide to do, 90 percent of our resolutions fail. Why is this? We believe that there are

three reasons for this. 1. People make unrealistic resolutions. 2. People don’t equip themselves with the mental ammunition to fight off doubt and continue with their goals. 3. Using guilt or fear as motivation, or resolving to stop doing something.


We want to share some realistic ideas for how to become more focused and have fun along the way. These are taken from an article in Bulletproof, the state of high performance.

  1. Make the goal more specific. You will be more likely to succeed. Instead of saying I’m going to eat all salads at all the meals and be healthier, make your goal to eat a salad during at least one meal per day. Instead of saying “I’m going to go to the gym everyday” make your goal to go to the gym at least four times a week.
  2. Do not make too many goals. The more goals you make the more your will power will suffer. For best results, focus on three of them only. Keep your list short and after you achieve them, you can always add more goals later.
  3. Seek support from your friends and family. Having people in your life that will give positive praise or constructive feedback, will support you even if you are feeling shame, guilt and negative about your results. Mistakes are a part of your success, so don’t be afraid to make them.resolutions2
  4. Speaking of Shame and guilt, this does not work. These are the biggest hindrances you will face on your journey to bulletproof. The worse you feel about yourself, the less self-efficacy you have, and that of course only makes you ashamed. People who imagined eating cake and felt ashamed about it actually thought the cake would taste better.  If you think about how bad you feel after eating you’ll eat more. Likewise, students who beat themselves up for putting off studying put off their studying more. It’s the same with addicts. The worse they feel about a minor lapse, the more likely it turns into a major relapse.  More guilt = more problems. There is also the “what the hell effect”.  If you do one thing bad, it avalanches into other “bad” things, especially with food and drinking.  You already “sinned” once, what the hell, why not something else? The solution to this complex situation in your head is something straight out of some forms of meditation: self-compassion. If you forgive yourself after a transgression with food or something else, you are less likely to make it worse.resolutions3

Hopefully this will help you and guide you as you decide on three top and most important New Year’s resolutions that you would like to look at making. We wanted to give you a list of some possible ideas that can be fun. Just in case you don’t have any thoughts on what you want to do:

  • Don’t exercise more than twice a week.  It’s unnecessary and maybe even harmful
  • Quit smoking without a plan
  • Stop watching television
  • Eat only grass fed meats
  • Stop drinking decaf coffee
  • Stop forcing yourself to eat things you don’t like to eat because they are healthy for you
  • Eat dark chocolate twice or three times a week
  • Meditate three times a week
  • Get a massage or a facial
  • Spend more time with family or friends
  • Read a book you’ve been wanting to read
  • Learn a new language
  • Contact an old friend you haven’t seen for a while
  • Spend less time on Facebook or your phone
  • Hold eye contact during a conversation
  • Overcome conversational narcissism
  • Go on a date
  • Keep something clean and organized
  • Listen to more music
  • Lessen the amount of soda you drink
  • Go white water rafting, kayaking, sky diving, zip lining, hiking
  • Have more sex
  • Remember your friend’s birthday
  • Hold a spider in your hand
  • Be less judgmental of yourself and others
  • Hold a door open for someone else
  • Let that other car over into your lane in front of you
  • Learn the art of public speaking
  • Volunteer with an organization
  • Learn to memorize anything
  • Master the perfect handshake
  • Stop consuming artificial sweeteners
  • Be easier and nicer to yourself
  • Climb a mountain
  • Create something amazing
  • Start a business
  • Heal your emotional scars
  • Let loose and have a cheat day
  • Free your internal animal
  • Sleep-in sometimes
  • Write / Read a book


Whatever you decide to do for your New Year’s Resolution, we wish you much success and that you have a joy in the journey that you are getting ready to embark on. Enjoy and be Happy … and a Happy New Year to all of you!


You can actually accomplish a number of these resolutions while you stay at Casa de Montaña Bed & Breakfast such as the outdoors activities, reading a book and sleeping-in! See you soon!


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